Freaky Friday: Rules for waiting for the one...you want to have sex with...AKA Your Marshmallow
Waiting for sex
Freaky Friday: Every Friday a new post dealing with love, relationships, dating and anything else the human soul may need answered.
Freaky Friday Alert! Next week there will be a lot more Freaky Friday posts leading up to the weekend in honor of my birthday. Be on the look-out for 'How to spot a jerk', 'What are you waiting for?', and many more love, dating and relationship posts.
I love that the other week's article posed so much discussion. Some readers let me know they have no interest in waiting for the marshmallow...inside joke for those that read the post. Read it here. Others were inspired and some shared similar goals for themselves.
I have had a few questions asked about the for the rules for holding out for your marshmallow. Here are some questions and here are my thoughts.
Can you make out? Yes! Please do. After all it's nature's toothbrush. Kissing, making out with someone is perfectly harmless and should be done as often as possible. This is a favorite pastime of mine. "You should be kissed often and by someone that knows how"--ain't it the truth! So yes, please take the opportunity to kiss, make out, play tonsils hockey or whatever the kids are calling it these days.
Can I date? Again dating is a part, an important part, of the process to finding your marshmallow. I don't know exactly how many people I have dated but well over 100. This includes coffee dates, go for a walk dates, dinner, drinks, mini golf. You name it, I've done it...well not everything. I've never been on a helicopter ride or whisked out of the country on a first date. Dating is a tool to help you find out what you like and what you don't like. A great way to have some fun and some great stories. I have some great stories!
How long do I have to wait when I think I've found the marshmallow? That is entirely up to you. I did write about the 90 day rule. Read it here. But really it's all up to you. I had a one night stand turn into a long term relationship...almost marriage. So you really never know. Go with your flow.
How do I know I found the right marshmallow? Oh that's a good question. It's different for everyone. Me I know by their kiss. Kissing really is the bee's knees. Explore and take your time. BigRed and I were friends (strong attraction between both of us. Read 'Love at first sight' on my Blog). After a few months of flirtation, then he asked me out on a first day date...many day dates later he asked to move it to a night dinner date. I knew he was it on the first date ever just by the hug he gave me but it was many night dinner dates later that I discovered I was right.
What if I think I found my marshmallow but it doesn't work out? I'm sorry if this is the case. Love has no guarantees. I hate endings but I love beginnings. Think of this as a new beginning and learn from the marshmallow what you can. Here are the Post Break-up Rules.
What if I never find my marshmallow? You mean like, if it were years? That's a great question. It's almost been a year for me...but I don't know what I would do if I never found the marshmallow. I guess if I felt in my heart that I was over waiting, then I would probably find the nearest candy store...aka the bar and take something home...if I didn't want to wait or I felt waiting was no longer serving my purpose, then yeah, to hell with waiting...sex is great exercise and this girl is looking to break a sweat!