The Rubber Band Effect
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Ever feel like you're smothering someone? Wanting someone to chase after you? Then employ the rubber band effect: pull away to have the other person snap back.
How does one do this? Go do your own thing, live your own life and live it on your terms. Make yourself the priority, not the other person. If you feel them pushing you away, go away. This is a tactic for sure, but I say it so hopefully you do live your life on your terms not someone else's. You don't become a doormat or a victim or find yourself constantly thinking about someone else who is obviously living life on their terms.
Here's an easy example.
When Captain America would come home, I would rush to the door like a little puppy dog and hop on him. I was so excited to see him. I would hug and kiss him.
One day, he asked me that when he got home to give him five minutes before talking to him, I was overwhelming him. I said ok. He would come home, I would stay put whereever I was in the house and give him exactly five minutes, sometimes more. After about a week he asked me why I wasn't greeting him at the door anymore.
"You told me not to." I replied.
"I want that back now. You can greet me at the door." And so I did.
It wasn't a game. I gave him what he needed and he didn't realize what he wanted was his woman so excited to see him after a long day at work.
In some cases the rubber band will snap off and break. You move away only to have the other person move away as well. It's not always a universal truth that the person will come back to you. But if you are living in the way you want, be prepared to know that you may not do it with them. If you're dating someone and they begin dating someone else, know that person is not meant for you.
Always follow your truth and your heart. Don't be fearful of losing someone. People really and truly come back to you if it's meant to be.
Have you ever let someone go and had them come back to you?