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Freaky Friday: It's Better To...(Wait For It) Receive!

Freaky Friday: Every Friday a new post dealing with love, relationships, dating...and anything else the human soul may need answered. 

We grew up hearing the saying 'it's better to give than to receive'. Yes, giving is wonderful and can make us feel all warm and fuzzy, but many of us have distorted this old adage to mean 'it is always right to give, and you're selfish and terrible if you receive'.  We have taken the giving to extremes, and found ourselves not worthy of receiving. More value is being put on "doing it ourselves", or not feeling as though we can ask for help because of pride. When people want to give to us, we refuse and say they are too kind, but we couldn't accept such generosity. It's difficult for us to fathom that someone may go out of their way to help us, in any sort of circumstance. 

The feeling is such that we perceive ourselves as good people for giving, but even better people for not receiving.

This is just not the case. 

If you have trouble receiving, you may be holding yourself back in life. Even the smallest offering of time, money or gifts could be a huge help that is being declined. Here are a few things that happen when one refuses to receive: Firstly, you are not honoring the other person's desire to help, which if allowed, could make them feel empowered and happy. 

Secondly, the more you refuse, the clearer the message becomes that you don't need to receive. You'll find yourself in a cycle of giving and giving and feeling drained in any or in all ways; emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and financially. 

Earlier this week, a friend of mine noticed that I haven't posted Freaky Friday's regularly as of late. I have many posts that I have written- I actually have had one prepared for each week, but I was feeling in a slump. I was feeling uninspired and I knew my writing was showing it. This friend suggested some writing expertise and also made a book recommendation. I had heard of the book, and it's one I had been wanting to read. I told this friend thank you and that I would be going out to get a copy.  My friend's reply? "Don't get the book, I'll buy it for you". What a gift! What a treat! Even just the suggestion was sweet. A year ago, I think I would have refused their offer, not wanting to offend or feel I was taking advantage. Now, I know differently. Now I know if you want to have balance in your life, you need to be able to receive effortlessly. Appreciate the other person for giving and caring, and honor their desire to be generous in their way, whatever way that may be. Maybe it's their time. Maybe it's the little things they help you with. Maybe it's a phone call they make on your behalf. Or maybe it's a book they believe will help you. Whatever the case may be, honor the receiving. Don't feel bad about it! After all,  you wouldn't want someone to feel bad if you were to do the same for them. 

Peace, Love and Hugs,