Freaky Friday - There's a Difference Between Being Alone and Being Lonely
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There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Being alone can feel good…great even! Able to do your own thing. Enjoy your time to yourself. Be on your schedule and not someone else’s. Being lonely means you’re sad and you don’t feel close to anyone in that moment. I’ve felt lonely in a room with friends. I’ve felt lonely in relationships. I’ve felt lonely single. It doesn’t matter your relationship status or popularity, most people feel lonely throughout their lives. Just because someone is single does not mean they feel lonely. Some of my happiest times were when I was single. Don’t assume that just because you’re in a relationship you’ll never feel lonely. You can do all the work in the world on yourself and your relationship and still feel lonely. No one is immune. You can have all the friends in the world and still feel lonely. Every now and then when I’ve met a random rockstar or celebrity and we begin to relate to each other, I’ve always discovered just how lonely their lives can be. Not all that glitters is gold.
So, we’ve established being alone feels good. Being lonely is where we can learn, grow and work on. First step is to know this feeling will not last forever AND it’s ok to be feeling it, no matter your situation. Everyone does. I wrote about "Being Lonely" years ago, click HERE to read all seven tips on combating loneliness.
In brief, I would say know your network and make a list of the things that make you happy. I’ve had years when I’ve only had one true friend. I’ve had years when my network was my family. I personally have a list of things that make me happy and when I’m having a bad day or a feel lonely, I look to the list and see which thing catches my eye. I then go out and do that one thing. Could be taking a walk, or wearing red lipstick or talking with my nieces on the phone. Know your network and have your feel good list.
Peace, Love & Hugs!