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Freaky Friday: I Wish Casual Sex Was...Casual

Freaky Friday: Every Friday a new post dealing with love, relationships, dating and anything else the human soul may need answered.

"It's all fun...just sex..."  That was a proposition I received from a friend. I appreciate the offer, I really do but for me sex isn't casual. In fact, just the opposite. I'm an all in type of girl. Not only do I become emotionally attached but physically, mentally and spiritually. For me, sex is not just sex. Dont get me wrong, sex is fun. That's my drug of choice. I could make sweet sweet love all day long and by the powers that be, I have been lucky enough to do so.  (High five) On some level, I wish sex were casual. I love it so much! I'm a little addict once I get going. I meet people regularly that if I could sleep with them, because sex was just like shaking hands, I would. But for me, that's not the case. I'm built the way I am. And the way I am falls hard and fast. I will want them all the time. What's casual about that?

It's certainly not fun being celibate...I myself am waiting for the right guy. It's been...gasp!...a long time. But once you've had knock your socks off loving making sessions with someone you are deeply in love with and they are deeply in love with you it's hard to have anything else. The high just isn't the same and it's too costly emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually to be risky with someone you're not sure about. I have the stance that it's better to wait for the right partner than settle on a cheap thrill.

Side note: this makes me think of the experiment with the marshmallow. The kids are put in front of a marshmallow and told that if they wait until the person is back they will get two marshmallows. Some kids wait, others just eat the marshmallow. Sex right now is my marshmallow.

What are your thoughts on casual sex? Hold out for the real deal? Should one just throw caution to the wind? Have as much sex as possible with whomever? If you don't use it do you actually lose it?
Of course, my mother has always said to me "Be particular"


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