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Freaky Friday: The 90 Day Sex Policy

Freaky Friday: Every Friday a new post dealing with love, relationships, dating...and any questions the human soul may need answered.


Do you hear that? That's the sound of men and women all over the world wishing they never slept with "that guy" or “that girl”.  I’ve spoken before about the Sex Trap.  The Sex Trap is when you have amazing sex with someone and mistake that excitement for love or a relationship.  We live in a world where sex is expected.  I know guys that if the girl they are dating doesn’t have sex with them by the third date, they move on.  Some of them because they only want one thing and the others because they believe the girl isn’t interested in them.

To prevent the Sex Trap, becoming involved with someone you normally wouldn’t or to save yourself grief, I suggest implementing the 90 Day Sex Policy.  When interested and/or dating someone there will be no sex, sleeping with or making love…until 90 days has passed and you're fully committed to each other.  The benefits of implementing this are huge.  First off, the first 90 days of dating someone is blissful!  You really don’t know each other.  The moment you sleep with someone, is the moment when the relationship becomes complicated.  It’s no longer getting to know each other, which is what dating is all about.  Taking 90 days to see if there is a possibility of a future is worth the wait.  You’ll save yourself so much grief and time. 

Benefits of waiting 90 days:

-You’ll weed out the bad for yous, the crazys, the jerks, the clingy etc, etc.

-Less likely to contract an STD.  Even with protection, there are diseases you can get.  So if you don’t want a gift that keeps on giving, don’t give it up so soon.  (Waiting doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t contract something.)

-Grief.  No worries about feeling used or bumping into someone you’ve slept with or dated briefly and feeling awkward…because you didn’t sleep with them…you waited 90 days and weeded this person out. 

-Time Wasted.  If amazing sex is involved, the Sex Trap comes into play.  Fear of leaving the relationship or stopping because the sex is enjoyable.  Sometimes there’s even a feeling of a false connection.  This connection, or amazing sex can make people stay in a relationship far longer than they should.  Not having sex with someone is an easier out of a situation that you don’t want to be in.

-You’re worthy of love.  You’re worth the wait.  The right person for you is worth the wait. Don't cheapen it. 

I know we’re getting into summer, which is the sex season.  The hot days bring hot nights.  It can be tough to not have one night stands or wait 90 days.  It will be worth it though.  If you’re saying to yourself, “I can’t wait that long. I love sex!”  I’m right there with you.  I have a few tricks up my sleeve for this…Adult novelty items or sex toys. Some girls have a sex draw filled with all their goodies…At one point, I used to have a sex toy closet…Yeah for me!  So, hopefully this gives you an idea that I love sex.  If I could do it all day long I would…and I have.  I love it all!  What I don’t like is time wasted, games, and being with someone that I don’t have a connection to. 

Which brings me to…

I have many favorite toys. Currently my favorite toy for single life or the waiting period,  The Celebrator! (This is also a great toy for couple's play as well)  When I first heard of this I wasn’t completely sold on it.  But after some persuasion, I decided to give it a go. Happily, I’ve been celebrating for months now!  Give it a whirl.  Bonus: Restful sleep.

If you’re looking for a celebrator…or any other adult novelty item contact Kelly Miller.  She’s a Goddess for Athena’s.  She also happens to be my best friend since we were 9/10 years old. 

Kelly's Goddess Facebook Page.


~Stay Well~


Peter B. Brace's picture

Ninety days?!? Is that all? I think it should be longer. If you have toys, then you should be able to go at least another month. So, no sleeping with each other, but what about other stuff? Where do you draw the line? And what about a recommendation for toys for boys? There are some good ones at What are your recommendations?